Saturday, November 5, 2011

Do You Finally Believe?


Do You Finally Believe?

If you’ve been following this blog at all then you know that I like rugby. If you’ve been following the “Chaplain Malcolm Rios” blog then you know that the 2011 Rugby World Cup was recently played in New Zealand. The Kiwi’s national team, the All Blacks, have always been favorites in matches because of the legacy they have continued to build upon over the years as the team who has won the most international test matches.
I few weeks ago I wrote in my blog about the New Zealand / Argentina match. Because the matches were played in New Zealand and because interest for rugby has not increased exponentially in the U.S., Americans were forced, for the most part, to watch all the matches over the internet, World Wide Sports, or only three times televised on NBC. The beauty of technology is that because we have smartphones we also have apps and “there’s an app for that” absolutely applied to the Rugby World Cup.
The app was great because it not only allowed you to see the Pool Play brackets but you could track scores, get news feeds, keep up with player stats, and get merchandise if you were so inclined. Because the games were being played in a different time zone, we could know the score before we could actually watch the game in some instances. The New Zealand / Argentina match was one such match.


Knowing the score was great but I really wanted to watch the match. The legendary All Blacks were playing the incoming member of the Tri-Nations tourney. The Tri-Nations championship would be no more. Now South Africa, Australia, and New Zealand would have to compete with Argentina … the last major player in the Southern Hemisphere.
So, in this match, it was safe to say that Argentina were the underdogs. New Zealand won the match but Argentina played well. I don’t know if you’re like me at all but sometimes, despite what you already know, you want an outcome to be different. You know it can’t and won’t be but it makes you wonder, “What if?” That’s how I felt watching that match!
But then I thought, “Man, most of us walk through life thinking that same thing! We think that despite what the Book says, we can change things. Something different will happen because we’re special.” HELLO! If you confess Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior then you know how the story ends and you understand that just as important as the ending is, how you play the game is every bit as important.
The crazy thing is that Satan spends a great deal of time and energy influencing people to buy into the lie that they will (1) face no consequences – “living easy, living free,” (2) they are immortal – “season ticket on a one-way ride,” and (3) that his way is the best way despite “going down, party time, my friends are gonna be there too.” And unlike what the Stones tried to sell us, time is not on our sides.
And despite how you or I feel throughout this thing called life … God will win. We will win! “But you belong to God, my dear children. You have already won a victory over those people, because the Spirit who lives in you is greater than the spirit who lives in the world” (1 John 4:4). We persevere because of the power of the Holy Spirit living in us!


Let’s go back to that deception that Satan uses so effectively. The other day, I was in Wal-Mart with Angus and on the way out we stopped in the little game area. Since he’s only two, he can’t play any of the games but he is drawn to the bells, whistles, prizes, and the Claw (just like his daddy). I’m always drawn to the Claw – like those little aliens in Toy Story.
But what really got me is that Angus was drawn to it. He liked playing with the toggle. I don’t think he really understood, much less cared, how the thing worked. I, on the other hand, stood there and was amazed at how God uses simple things to illustrate deeper principles. It’s almost like having a parable explained to you by the Man, himself.
Everyone who knows the Claw knows that it’s rigged; kind of like Vegas. The house always wins. You might think you’re the shiznit because you’ve grabbed something in your lifetime but I think the odds of anyone actually getting anything into the prize chute are stacked against you higher than the odds of you winning $100 million in the Tennessee Lottery!
But we still play it! And even worse … we kid ourselves into believing that we are going to actually win! The Claw of Death is like the life we so often try to live. It’s also similar to the match between New Zealand and Argentina. We know who’s going to win (in this case, the house) yet we keep trying to beat it. Sorry, sweetie. It ain’t gonna work!
We think that we can beat the system. We think we can enjoy sin – live a life of sin – and we’ll be alright. For instance (and I’m not bashing Zac Brown as bad as I was Bon Scott and my boys from AC/DC), take the song, “No Hurry.”

Heaven knows that I ain't perfect
I've raised a little cain
And I plan to raise a whole lot more
Before I hear those angels sing
(Gonna get right with the lord)
But there'll be hell to pay
But I ain't in no hurry

            Kenny Chesney says it just as well: “Everybody want to go to heaven but nobody want go now.” Taken with a little bit of humor, the lyrics are a lighthearted look at how life is most often lived by everyone … yep, even the Christians. We have that same attitude that our penance is to “give a little bit” to CYA (cover your arrogance).

I said, “Preacher maybe you didn’t see me
Throw and extra twenty in the plate
There’s one for everything I did last night
And one to get me through today

It’s absolutely nuts that we continue to kid ourselves and call ourselves believers when we in no other way give our lives to the Lord! Am I perfect? No but that’s not an excuse to continue in ways that do not glorify the Lord.

”It was by faith that Moses, when he grew up, refused to be called the son of Pharaoh’s daughter. He chose to share the oppression of God’s people instead of enjoying the fleeting pleasures of sin. He thought it was better to suffer for the sake of Christ than to own the treasures of Egypt, for he was looking ahead to his great reward” – Hebrews 11:24-26.

            And just in case you forgot this one: “The wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life through Christ Jesus our Lord” – Romans 6:23.


            So, we’ve talked about knowing the outcome of the game and we’ve talked about allowing ourselves to be caught up in the lies that we can actually win the game that Satan is trying to pull us into. Now let’s talk about winning the game and how to “get ‘er done!”
For the 2011 Rugby World Cup Championship match, New Zealand faced France. France has always given the All Blacks a tough time. For some reason, a mental block seems to come into play during their matches. This time seemed no different. France seemed to be on every move that the All Blacks attempted to make. The phases were shut down time and time again.
The beauty of this match was that I didn’t know who was going to win. (I found out later that it was not a live feed that afternoon. The game had streamed live at 3 a.m. that morning). I was rooting for the All Blacks but, as I said before, France played well the entire game and in all actuality, I thought they would win. Ultimately the All Blacks went on to win the game 8 – 7. Obviously, it was a low scoring game but the game itself was what head to head is all about.
It was a great match because the two teams that deserved to be there this year were there and they were evenly matched. Neither team gave much ground to the other. Only two tries, an extra point’s field goal, and a field goal were scored. Everything else was blood, guts, and glory! The last five minutes of the match were testimony to the strength, teamwork, determination, and resiliency of the All Blacks. Ultimately, they wanted it more and they proved it by a strategic hold at the end of the game. Things clicked for them in that last five minutes in a way that exemplified everything that they had accomplished throughout the tourney.
Their struggle to win this final match reminded me of the words that Paul wrote to the Romans. Allow me to break it down like this:

Romans 5:1-5

1 Therefore, since we have been made right in God’s sight by faith, we have peace with God because of what Jesus Christ our Lord has done for us.
·         The All Blacks organization had painstakingly selected the players for the 2011 RWC team. Once chosen, these guys – who were already the best in their field – trained to become even better and unified as a team. They were “made right.” They were ready to play at the first whistle.
2 Because of our faith, Christ has brought us into this place of undeserved privilege where we now stand, and we confidently and joyfully look forward to sharing God’s glory.
·         Because of the preparation – the pain they had endured to be ready for the RWC – the All Blacks defeated every other team in their Pool Play. They were poised to enter the elimination rounds with no loses. They were in a place of “privilege” and were “confidently and joyfully” looking forward to sharing the glory.
3 We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance.
·         Elimination rounds were challenging but the All Blacks continued on their relentless pursuit of the Ellis Cup.
4 And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.
·         Everything they did, everything they had experienced to this point, led them to – prepared them for – this final match with France. They had endured. The strength of their character as a team was evident. And their hope became the momentum that carried them to victory.
5 And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.
·         All Black hope, confidence, and conditioning carried them to a victory that will be talked about in rugby circles for years to come. It was a show of strength – a show of rock solid resolve.

Paul wrote these inspired Words of God. And God is so good to remind us more than once of He has in store for those who believe. Like that rugby match, we will face trials. We might even think we’re going to lose from time to time but God encourages us otherwise. “I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world” – John 16:33. The funny thing is He said that because of the previous two verses. “Jesus asked, ‘Do you finally believe? But the time is coming—indeed it’s here now—when you will be scattered, each one going his own way, leaving me alone. Yet I am not alone because the Father is with me’” – John 16:31-32.
Ultimately, that’s what we have to ask ourselves. Do we finally believe or have we scattered, gone our own way, and left him alone? Are we like the Israelites in Judges? “In those days Israel had no king; all the people did whatever seemed right in their own eyes” Judges 17:6; 21:25). Are you doing what’s right in your own eyes or do you finally believe?

Friday, November 4, 2011

God Loves You

          I once knew a boy who had heard about the love of God at a very early age. At an early age, it’s very easy to accept what people tell you about God’s love. To tell you the truth, it’s easy to accept about anything at an early age because you haven’t been influenced by much other than your parents, siblings, relatives, and young friends and for the most part, all of them are looking out for your best interests.
          Anyway, as this young boy grew up he began to allow other people and situations to influence him and his relationship with God began to waver. The boy began to really question the motives of people’s hearts and actions when it came to following God: Why do people say they love God just on Sundays? Does God really love me? Do I really love God? What difference does loving God really make in my life? But in reality, what he was doing was questioning the motives and attitudes of his own heart.
          As you can imagine, by allowing these questions to continue in his heart, the boy moved farther and farther away from his relationship with God. As a teenager, the boy tried to completely throw God out of his life. But no matter how hard he tried to disregard God and no matter what he did to fill his “God-shaped hole” with sex, drugs and alcohol, adventure, music, and indifference, God always remained, waiting with open arms for that time when the boy might come to his senses and return to his first love. It took 27 years for the boy to realize that he’d hit rock bottom and he’d done it all on his own.
          Folks … there are signs of God’s love are all around us: the majesty of the Smokey Mountains, the peacefulness of Cummins Falls, the beauty of the sunrise over the Atlantic Ocean, and the splendor of a Colorado sunset. They are all part of God’s Creation, all expressions of His overflowing love for each of us … something that man has yet to duplicate or clone.
We are part of God’s creation. But we are set aside from everything else that God has created. God loves us so much that He’s given us the choice, the freewill, to love Him back. That’s how we’re different than anything else He’s created. But we, like Adam and Eve and every person in between, so often choose to ignore God rather than to have a relationship with him.
Just in case you didn’t know, God has a Covenant with Humanity. The Bible is the love story of His Covenant – a love story with humanity despite our sin and choice to ignore Him. And all He wants, His heart’s desire, is that you and I have a mutual love relationship with Him. God offers us this relationship: a relationship of based and built on grace. Through Jesus, God offers this transforming relationship with us. Jesus models a life transformed through relationship with God. It is something given freely yet not deserved or worked for. That is grace defined and it breaks down like this:
God offers a friendship based on grace.
God pursues us throughout our lives.
And God’s grace stems from God’s unconditional love – His grace through our faith.
Here’s the kicker:
We can never be too good or too bad for God’s grace.
And nothing can separate us from God’s love.
There are numerous reasons why the boy I’ve spoken about … and we … ignore God’s love. Ignorance is one reason. The boy didn’t quite understand the relationship that God was offering. All he saw was religion and from an early age he didn’t want religion, rules, or “cans and can’ts.” He was ignorant to how a relationship is totally different from a religion. His ignorance of relationship made his desire to be in control stronger.
If the boy didn’t give in to someone else’s “ideas” of how he should live his life or to whom he should give his life, he could be in control and make decisions based on his own truths. By being in control, he was neither accountable to nor responsible for anyone else, particularly, a God who he’d “never seen, spoken to, or heard from.”
Ignorance and his desire to be in control only led to more doubts about the reality of God and His existence. He’d ask questions like:
Was a loving God merely a figment of somebody’s imagination cause all I see through religion are fear, guilt, and shame?
God is only for weak people who need a crutch. Why do I need Him? Everything that I’ve ever accomplished in life has been because I’ve had to drive to accomplish the task.
And if God is so great, trustworthy, and cares so much about me, why does He let bad things happen to me?
What have I done to make God want to get even with me?
So the boy’s doubts eventually led him to fall under pressure from others who were ignorant as well. He went with the flow most times – spread his wings, sowed his wild oats. Sometimes he led others astray. Either way, he moved farther and farther from God. He allowed himself to be molded by his “friends and heroes” because choosing to follow God only made him feel less cool, out of touch, and restricted. Peer pressure can do deplorable things to a person when that person has decided to say yes to certain activities and no to God.
But there are definite results of ignoring God’s love. There are costs one will eventually have to pay. As I said before, the boy felt a deep-seated emptiness that he tried to fill with things: relationships, alcohol, drugs, sex, music, indifference but the more he tried to indulge, the less he felt fulfilled. No “feel-good” experience could truly make him feel good. Pain and guilt consumed him as he chose to live against God’s image in him.
He knew right from wrong his whole life. No question about it … but he continued to choose to go against the will of God. He continued to walk his own path at that point because it was in his comfort zone. It was what he knew but he knew no peace. As a result, he had a poor self-image, low self-esteem, and bad feelings about who he was engulfed him. Eventually he thought he was of no worth despite everything he did to make himself feel better. He even contemplated suicide and murder. He hated who he was and he hated others simply for existing in his world. And he hated God for creating him.
Thoughts of eliminating his problems were an everyday occurrence.

Fade to Black
“Life it seems to fade away
Drifting further every day
Getting lost within myself
Nothing matters no one else
I have lost the will to live
Simply nothing more to give
There is nothing more for me
Need the end to set me free”
(Metallica)

The Waiting
Would you think that I am crazy?
If I said I want to die?
Help me Jesus, can you save me?
Nothing here can make me cry
I’ve been thinking about leaving
I’ve been thinking hard and long
Every person that comes near me
Are reasons why I write my song
(Malcolm Rios)

But because certain men and women, who God had placed specifically in the boy’s life, lived what the Bible said, the boy began to see things differently. He was being drawn to accepting the love relationship God was offering him. He began by choosing to be open to God.
And I challenge you to live as though God is real. Be open to it. Believe He communicates and that He will communicate with you. Listen for His still, small voice. Listen to other Christians and what their experiences may offer you in the way of advice and encouragement in your own walk.
You’ve been given an awesome opportunity to hear, first hand, from a wide variety of people who’ve experienced God’s love and you’ll hear about the struggles they’ve faced with their own faiths. Believe that God is waiting for you to talk to Him and He’s eager to listen. Open up to Him. He has the greatest ears and heart in the universe.
I want you to close your eyes for the next few minutes and just listen and think on what I’ve got to say. Take a chance and trust that God has a great purpose for your life. Take a moment to think about all God’s blessings in your life. If you honestly assess them, you won’t be able to take just a moment. God has started something good in you and He will complete that good work!
Take a chance and receive the message being personally delivered to you right now: God wants a relationship with you. Take a chance and imagine what would be different if you were to accept God’s love right now. What would you hope to receive by accepting God’s love? What one thing would you be able to let go of by accepting God’s love?
Folks … the person or people who turned you onto this blog and my heart’s desire are for you to simply say yes to the love relationship God offers. Believe me when I say that saying yes to God is an act of faith. It’s a daily act of faith. We have to decide to offer our lives to God – to put our lives and futures in His hands – not as a religion but as a personal relationship that can be cultivated and developed over a lifetime.
Conversion begins the moment we say yes to God. And “conversion” is allowing God’s love and purpose to turn our lives around, to redirect us. And turning our lives around is a lifelong process but it’s a process we don’t have to go through alone. You can open your eyes now.

If you haven’t figured it out already, the boy in this story is me. At the time I accepted God’s offer of a love relationship, I was an empty, angry man who’d thought that serving in the military, going to college, and filling my body and mind with all sorts of experiences would fill the hole in my heart. None of it did.
A friend of mine knew that I was empty. He asked me, one day, if he could pray for me. My answer was yes but my thoughts were, “What the hell? It couldn’t hurt.” That was the smartest thing I’d done in my life. I was open to God at that point and a week later, I went to church for the first time in 15 years. At church, God, through the preacher, gave a simple salvation message just for me and as the talk ended, I raised my hand, went to the alter, and gave my life to God.
Has it been a walk in the park? To be honest with you … yeah, it’s been good. Sure, there have been some times when life has thrown curveballs at me but for the most part, God has blessed me far more than I deserve, much less, would have ever dreamed of. And you know what, with God; you can still hit a grand slam off a curveball.
I really believed I’d be in prison or dead by the time I was 25 but God has a bigger purpose for me. I never thought I’d find someone who’d share their life with me but last year, God, brought Amanda into my life and two absolutely beautiful children, Sophia and Angus. Tell me that isn’t a blessing.
I’ve done things, been places, met people, and had my life changed in more ways over the last 15 years because of my relationship with God. He has sustained me and there is no doubt … I say again, there is no doubt in my heart … that God is who He says He is and He loves me … He loves you … like He says He does.
In closing, I, like Adam and Eve, denied God for as long as I could. I hid from God, like them, naked, afraid, and ashamed. I knew I was separated from His love. Yet, God searched for Adam and Eve. He called their names, “Adam, Eve, where are you?” He did the same for me, “Malcolm, where are you? I want a relationship with you?” The same is true for all of you. God is seeing you out and He calls your names as well saying:

  • “_________, where are you? I love you and want a relationship with you.”
  • “_________, where are you? I love you and want a relationship with you.”
  • “_________, where are you? I love you and want a relationship with you.”


God is inviting you to say yes to the offer of a relationship.

What will be your response?